Sarah Michelle Gellar on says the pandemic is ‘the hardest thing that I’ve ever faced in my life’
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Some mothers may have “vampire slayer” on their resume, but Sarah Michelle Geller Otherwise Lockdown is riding life like your average parent: playing board games, wrestling with screen time dilemmas and out of the ages of her two children, ages 8 and 11. The actress – who married the 90s heartthrob and frequent co-star Freddy Princes Jr. in 2002 – is also finding purpose by helping to combat the hunger brought on by the epidemic, an initiative she says “feeds my soul . “
Here, Star tells about his latest charitable project, friendship and the lessons he is giving to his children.
How are you in terms of breaking yourself of mental health or relieving stress? Are you working outside, or journaling, or meditating?
It would be great to meditate, but I have two children in my house besides the bathroom, I just don’t have time by myself. My focus is my sleep. I am exercising; I think this is really important for me. It is also about getting out and getting fresh air. It is easy to just stay on your zoom all day and stay in your room or read a book or whatever things are, and I make it a point to be outside. Even if he zoms my [outdoors] – I am fortunate to have a backyard and live in an area that has beautiful weather so that I can live outside. I think this is very important; You can be very depressed all the time.
And [it’s about] Really just trying to find appreciation and gratitude. As difficult as this situation is, understanding that I am in a lucky place where I am not food-insecure, and definitely focusing on what I can do to help those who are themselves Are struggling worse than. I am one of those people who needs to be busy and feel that they are helping other people.
Have partnered with you Subaru donates 100 million meals to Feeding America Helping people who are food-insecure during an epidemic. How does it help you hold back perspective during these difficult times?
Well, I think perspective is the key word in what you are saying. You cannot do it for your health and well being, you cannot deny that what every person is doing is difficult. This is the hardest job I have ever faced in my life, and I am not facing the situations that other people are facing. And perspective has always been important to me, especially on days where I feel frustrated and think, I can’t handle it.
And I think what’s happening right now, and when you hear in 1 like 4 out of 4 kids right now is food insecurity and can’t possibly know where they’re bringing the next meal from, which is my heart at every level Breaks. What are the things that we, as a community, as a country can do to help that situation, because no child should ever worry about where their next meal is coming from. And being able to connect with a company like Subaru means that what they actually say and are making such a difference affects my spirits… it feeds my soul.
How is your family going through the epidemic? Are there any bright spots?
You have to find your own bright spots in this situation, and it goes in waves. I live in Los Angeles right now, which I think is probably the most upbeat in the country, in terms of lockdown. It goes in waves where you can see people at some distance. I am a person so it is difficult for me not to stay social and not see my friends. But we have become so creative in other ways. The other day, I had a girlfriend, her birthday and we zoomed a game and we sent a Google doc with questions and we made these little paddles for our friends, who had to guess who answered it. It’s so funny how full circle things come. Years ago I was a person at a baby shower or a bachelor party that would be like, “I don’t want to play a game.” And now I am very happy to do so, at any stage that I connect with people in my life.
There are many bright spots. And the bright spots are spending time with my family. Generally, we live in a very busy society, and both my husband and I work and my children have an active social life, and they have classes and we are always on the move. And now we’re really back and enjoy having dinner together every night and playing board games. Just really connecting on a deeper level.
I think this has also strengthened the friendship – the people who were here for you checked when they didn’t hear from you in a couple of days and asked, “Are you feeling down?” … is it falling? Something in someone’s front yard to make them happy, or the fact that we have that ability [to connect], I feel very blessed.
Do you have any wellness routines that you practice as a family, or are there ways that you introduce your children to concepts like self-care and self-esteem?
Self-esteem is a difficult one to be young these days. We are very bombarded by these cultured, perfect pictures on social media, and this is a constant conversation I have had with my daughter. She is at that age, where she has started exploring different social media and I want her to understand that this is a bit of someone’s life, and it is filtered. You can edit everything, and this is not the reality.
I have always been fortunate that I was able to overcome negativity so much, because if I give credit to negativity, I have to be credited as much with positivity, and take it from people around me. I have explained to my daughter on many occasions that this is the most important [lesson]. It is difficult because she is missing that valuable time with groups of friends where you learn to navigate those situations.
My other welfare trick is, you have to balance screen time. He is for everyone – he is for me, he is for my children. And it’s hard because the screen is what connects us right now, but eventually it has a tendency to disconnect us, because we’re not together. We have lost those social skills and eye contact. Even if it is a walk with a friend with a double mask and getting outside, or a drive-by where I get out the window, make sure I give that connection some effort That is not just digital.
Is it difficult to do this with your children?
I try not to work too hard on myself because it is a big leap for us. Our children have not had much screen time before this, but I also have to understand that there is very little that they can do, and that is how it connects. The term is balance, and it ensures that we have large parts of the day where all the equipment is put away and we are on the trampoline outside, or we are talking about walking, or walking dogs, or playing a board. for. sport. Just balance it. But it is not so hard on yourself so that, you know, if a friend of his wants to zoom in with him, [accepting] That’s it for them right now [in terms of social contact] And understanding that it’s okay.
Are there any wellness trends you think are overrated?
I still drink my celery juice that I make myself or I get from the farmer’s market, so I don’t think it’s over. I do not have Apply gorilla glue to my hair [laughs].
This interview has been edited for length and clarity.
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